Newsletter Archive

"Bringing in 2008" – 2007 is over now. 2008 stands beckoning. Who you are is always changing. Every person you meet, every book you read, every conversation you have has the ability to redefine you. You can use the New Year as a gateway to consciously choose the learning/experiences you want to bring forward into 2008, and leave behind, forever, the things that belong in the past.

"On Your Own for the Holidays?" – This newsletter is specifically directed to those who find themselves feeling alone during the holidays - for whatever reason. Using words like "dancing, breezing, or gliding" through the holidays, rather than "surviving, overcoming, or remaining sane" will re-frame the holidays in a positive way. Design the holidays in a way that make sense to YOU!

"The Gift of Conflict" – Conflict is a gift. It isn't about assigning blame, fixing a "problem", or figuring out who is doing what to whom, but instead points to something wanting to happen in the relationship. The relationship itself wants to get bigger in some way. Conflict can catapult a relationship to a higher level of cooperation and aliveness. Consider it the growing pains of a healthy relationship.

"The Big Red X" – Some folks are downright dangerous to the heart. Why can't we just label them? In lieu of that, let's get ourselves educated about those Red X behaviors and avoid the heartache.

"The Honeymoon is Over" – Buying a home is a huge investment. So is committing to another human. Getting rid of either if it's a lemon is complicated. It's important to do enough homework upfront so that there are minimal surprises. What if we applied the same criteria we use for home buying to choosing a relationship partner?

"The Purpose of Purpose" – Divorce recovery is about turning relationship loss into a transformative experience. This is a great time to explore your purpose - before jumping into another relationship. Have you taken the time to get to know your own heart's desires the same way you would pursue the heart of another?

"Boundaries" – This is the second of two-part series about boundaries. Last issue we defined boundaries, took a look at what they do for us, what we gain by having good boundaries and what we subject ourselves to when we have poor boundaries. In this issue we will talk about different kinds of boundaries and how we can apply them to different situations for best results.

"Boundaries" – This article is the first of a series of two articles on Boundaries. In this first article we learn what a boundary is and the important role they play in relationships. Next month we'll learn of 4 different types of boundaries we can use in our relationships to both create love, and to protect it.

"Adults Negotiate" – The fourth of a four-part series discussing the adaptation strategies we use as little people to get the love we need to grow. Adults negotiate. They don't manipulate, control or play games, but find the common ground from which both can work. "Listen" in as two children, a child and a critical parent, and then two adults plan their vacation.

"Did I Marry a Child or a Grownup?" – The third of a four-part series discussing the adaptation strategies we use as little people to get the love we need to grow, and how they may undermine love if brought into adult romantic relationships in an unconscious way. This article looks at the two sides of child behavior.

"The Parent Within - Two Sides of the Coin" – The second of a four-part series discussing the adaptation strategies we use as little people to get the love we need to grow, and how they may undermine love if brought into adult romantic relationships in an unconscious way. From Session Two of the Fisher Divorce Recovery Seminar.

"Everywhere I Go, There I Am" – The first of a four-part series discussing the adaptation strategies we use as little people to get the love we need to grow, and how they undermine love when brought into adult romantic relationships. Lessons from the Fisher Divorce Recovery Seminars.